Aging can be a scary process. Many older adults often fear the unknown, such as the potential long-term effects of detrimental medical conditions associated with aging. Such fear may also be the reason why many aging adults dislike the idea of receiving help and are oftentimes dismissive of any new symptoms they face.
When there is a disagreement between them and their adult children over long-term care, they might start to bring up old family conflicts to shut their children down on the idea of receiving care from caregivers. However, having these talks are still important if the idea of moving your parents to a senior living community becomes a viable option for the family. Read on as we share with you five tips to help you manage conflicts or disputes with your stubborn loved ones here.
Try to Understand Their Motivation
When approaching them, listen not only to what they say but also to what they may not be verbally expressing. For instance, they might be afraid to move to assisted living communities as they are concerned about making new friends. They may be resistant to the idea of visiting the doctor as they fear what they may say about their health condition. Oftentimes, anxiety or fear is the underlying culprit of such behavior.
Accept the Situation
It can be difficult to see your family members face health challenges as a result of aging, especially if they are not receptive to receiving help. However, one can only do so much convincing to change their mindset or to convince them to explore new options. You can work with your counselor or support group to accept the current situation for what it is and recognize the fact that you cannot change the situation.
Treat Them as Adults
In the end, your parents are still your parents after all, and it can feel weird to both them and also to you if you start to treat them like a child. Remember that they are still adults and they deserve to be treated as one too. During your conversations with them, focus on empowering and giving them input and choices into every decision.
Talk to The Doctor
When all else fails, contact their doctor and inform them about your concern for their well-being. After all, a medical practitioner may be the one person you need whose advice your parents will listen to.
Stay Calm
On a certain level, your parents are aware that they are dealing with new challenges, so avoiding discussions about this may seem safer rather than admitting to reality. Mentioning your concerns patiently and speaking with gentleness may help reassure them that such changes are okay.
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